I really don’t know how I do so much. I sacrifice sleep and sanity, that’s about as good of an answer that you’ll get from me. This is my typical day Monday through Friday…
6am: alarm goes off
6:27am: get out of bed
6:30-7am: shower, dress, put my face on, hair, pack lunches, etc. Not gonna lie, 3 out of 5 days I usually wear ZERO make up to work and my hair is up in a ponytail or clip
7-7:10am: wake up Dani if she’s not already awake, cuddle in bed for a few minutes, watch cartoons, hugs and kisses and goodbyes for the day
7:10am-8ish: commute to work
8ish-11am: do “work” lol
11am-12pm: run errands on lunch. Go to the bank, Target, eyebrows waxed, quick run to the grocery store if not buying frozen or fridge food, get gas, dry cleaners, grab food if lunch hasn’t been packed or if I have time to stop somewhere
12pm-4:56pm: work work work
5pm-6pm: Sit in horrific traffic on the 405 freeway. (If you’re not from Southern California and have never had to experience the 405 during rush hour, consider yourself extremely lucky.)
6pm-7pm: get home, tackled with hugs and kisses, “Mommy! Mommy! Mommy! Look at me! Watch this! Look what I did at school! What’s for dinner? Why do I have to take a bath? I didn’t play outside today so I don’t need a bath. Can we go swimming? Can I have dessert? (All of this in a 5 minute time period as I’m trying to get undressed out of my work clothes and into jammies,) make dinner if my mom hasn’t already, eat dinner, bath time for Dani, chase a naked baby through the house trying to get jammies on her, laundry, clean, pick up the play room, vacuum, feed the dogs, and breathe.
7:15-8pm: answer Dani’s dads phone call to say goodnight, attempt to get Dani to talk to him on the phone (no interest whatsoever,) watch a movie, fold laundry, take a shower, get dressed to go see Muffin (the BF) if it’s date night, give Dani her nightly meds, get her into bed, say prayers, and lights out!
8:15pm-11ish: spend time with friends and Jonny playing Wii, Yogurtland trips, movies, whatever we do we always have a great time together. I usually finally get to bed anywhere between 11pm and 12:30am…and get up and do it all over again.
Wow. It seems to look much harder on paper than it feels. I guess I’m so used to doing the same routine day in and day out I never realized how much I did during the day. I’m very, very fortunate that I have my mom to help me take care of Dani. Because of the hour long commute I have to and from work, she’s able to make Dani breakfast, take her to school and pick her up. Her job is very flexible and she is lucky enough to be able to come in late, leave early, whatever she needs to do.
I recently asked my mommy friends how they juggle life’s daily tasks and responsibilities. Our answers were almost identical. We all pretty much do the same thing…just roll with the punches and handle our business because being a mom is our job. There have been times, like last night, where I had to go grocery shopping (because Lord forbid this kid have something other than pancakes for breakfast,) and I didn’t want to go on my lunch because they obviously would have to go in a the freezer and would be defrosted by the time I got home, and I didn’t want to stop and pick up the things I needed after work because I would rather spend time with Dani. So, after Dani fell asleep around 8:30, I went to Jonny’s apartment for face time (that’s what we call quality time,) we spent a little time together watching the World Cup while he attempted to fix my laptop which is just pissing me off to no end, and off we went to the grocery store at 10:30 at night. Luckily Seal Beach is an awesome and super safe area so I felt totally comfortable walking through the parking lot. And you know what, Muffin and I actually enjoy grocery shopping together. We learn more about each other’s likes and dislikes while shopping together; which helps me in the long run when I want to surprise him with dinner. Luckily I have a key to his place to make that possible. But that’s a whole other topic.
How do we do it? How do I even have time to write this? In my mind right now I’m thinking about what Dani would like for Christmas, what time I should make dinner reservations at on the 5th for Jonny’s birthday, what time Jonny, Dani and I will be going to the movies Friday for family date night, how I’m going to make it to my hair appointment on time after work (Dani will be with her dad until 7:30 tonight so I’m getting a MUCH needed hair cut,) I have a deadline that I need to meet and yet I’m writing this! Haha! And these are just this morning’s thoughts!
Ladies, we’re in a league of our own. Call me a sexist and biased, but I honestly don’t believe that a man would be able to do what we do. Just my opinion. I respect and admire every single one of you that do it all. I know that sometimes what you do goes unnoticed and you may sometimes feel unappreciated for all of your hard work (I know I have,) but I want you to know that you are AMAZING. You are raising the future of America and you’re doing a damn good job at it!